999 days sober

I’ve only got ten hours to go before one of the more significant milestones of my adult life arrives.

At midnight I’ll officially have been stone cold sober for 1000 days.

It’s something of a personal triumph that I’m very proud of – but in many ways it also represents something of a bittersweet victory.

Whilst I can’t deny that every aspect of my life has changed for the better since I gave up drinking and lost lots of weight I’m also still plagued by endless regrets.

I know that I could have been a better person for many years and for whatever reason I chose not to be – and that hurts.

The self-recrimination that comes with swathes of largely wasted time are legion, and sometimes I find it very difficult to turn off.

Today is one of those days.

Despite knowing that what I’m writing about represents a massive victory (and that it demonstrates conclusively to anyone caring to pay attention that profound change after lifelong failure is possible) I’m still sad.

I wish it hadn’t taken so long to overcome the pain that I buried and held close to me. I wish I’d been more present in people’s lives when instead I withdrew.

I wish a lot of things – but I can’t change any of it.

I know though that this sense of loss is something of a paradox – because part of the reason I managed to do what I’ve did is because I hated what I’d become so much.

I had to get to my lowest point before I could begin to rebuild.

I’d gotten to the stage where things had to change. If they didn’t then I’d either have continued to kill myself slowly or eventually taken a more active role in the event.

So – today is a victory.

It’s a win in the ‘rest of my life’ column and that’s something worth holding onto.

Maybe it’s also a win for other people reading this who are trapped in their own personal repeating cycles of self abuse – because if I can go from a 35 stone man drinking three bottles of wine a night that couldn’t walk to the end of his street to who I am now then they can too.

It’s all possible.

It’s not easy though – and sometimes every single day is a battle – but it’s right there for the taking if you want it enough.

You can’t change what’s already in the past – but you can fight for a better future.

If you do then there’s real, tangible hope at the end of what may be a long and difficult road.

You just have to take the first step internet – and then take another and another until gradually you become the person that you always wanted to be.


12 thoughts on “999 days sober

  1. Itโ€™s one thing to โ€˜likeโ€™ a post like this one. But what I really want to do is put a great big celebratory, encouraging, life-affirming ๐Ÿ’ by this post – for you and for all the positive, healing decisions youโ€™ve made in those 1000 days. Donโ€™t look back too often. You have SO much to look forward to.

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  2. Wow, just wow. I get the regrets thing, but perhaps if you hadnโ€™t had these struggles you would have ended up a fairly average Davey. But because of what youโ€™ve done youโ€™re now SUPER INCREDIBLE DAVEY.

    Either way, plenty of virtual hugs coming your way ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—

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  3. Congratulations on your 999 days, 23 hours and 52 minutes – or so it says here in NL.
    I get the regret and the sadness. Not sure what to do with it myself either. I KNOW from experience that things go because they obviously could not go another way. ๐Ÿ˜ฆ And yes. Still. However my cat says: why worry about what is in the past? It is now. And she is right. ๐Ÿ™‚
    Wishing you a wonderful 1000 days sober and looking after yourself. I made my first walk longer than 20 minutes in more than half a year – if I remember correctly. ๐Ÿ™‚ More shall follow. Starting small.
    xx, Feeling

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