Special friends

Friends are great. Good ones can get right to the heart of the matter and tell you what you need to hear even if it isn’t what you want to hear.

Others can just accept you as you are – warts and all – and still love the person inside, reminding you that the outside is superficial. One such friend helped me begin to climb over a big hurdle regarding this last night – and today I woke up feeling much stronger than I had before we talked.

Often I’ve found there are times you don’t even realise how heavy a burden is (or sometimes that you’re carrying it at all) until you lay it down and begin to move on.

So today – regardless of what happens at the weigh in I’ve decided this morning to take my old trousers and shirt with me to group and show people what they look like on me now – at around half way through my journey.

It’s a bit of a scary idea – but things are only frightening until you’ve done them once and then you usually realise that they aren’t as bad as you thought they’d be.

(Author goes to group and then returns home to finish his post)

Well – as usual I couldn’t call it. I must admit to being more than a little surprised that for the second week in a row I’ve lost a really decent amount of weight.

I’m now 11st 4lbs lighter than I was when I started back in April 2016!

After my weigh in as we all chatted over a coffee I took the opportunity to show some of the long term and newer members what my clothes looked like. Many photos were taken – which was really nice for a change – as I can see from other people’s perspective (rather than my own sometimes distorted and often self critical view in a mirror) what is different.

For those who haven’t seen my before photo (below) I am wearing the same clothes that I had on in group this morning.

most hated photo 2 (1)

And this is how they now fit me with my current jeans and shirt on underneath (top photo used with the permission of the lovely lady in the background!)


I cant help wondering how they’ll look when I get to my target weight. There’s still a long way to go! Either way I feel proud of myself this morning. Really proud.

That was almost all I had to say for today. My blog was going to end there.

But it won’t.

I was already feeling pretty buoyant walking home after group but it got better when I got opened the door and found my official job offer in a big envelope sitting under the letterbox.

All I have to do is sign on the dotted line and I’m employed!

I have all day though – so I reckon instead I’ll go for a coffee and think about life. Sometimes you just need to sit back to appreciate the good days and suck the pips out of them so that when the bad ones come you can look them square in the eye and take them on with a healthy sense of perspective.

Enjoy the rest of your Saturday internet – I know I’m going to.


P.S. There’s one particular lady in group today (she knows who she is) who can totally do it – even though she may feel a bit low at the moment. Just keep swimming! x

16 thoughts on “Special friends

  1. Omg Davey that is amazing! Just look at the difference. :O Not many people would have been able to do this without getting surgery so you had better be pretty damn proud of what you have achieved even if it is not your end goal yet 😀

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  2. I’ve never seen your ‘before’ pic. I know in my head that 11+ stone is a huge amount to lose, but to see it is incredible! Amazing! Truly very well done! Far too many people say “you’re an inspiration” in a bit of a sycophantic way, but I honestly mean it. To know it can be done especially when facing other big life changes is amazing. BIG congratulations and thanks for sharing. Also, while we are talking about congratulations… yay for your new job!!!!!!! 🙂

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    • Haha – thanks on both counts! I know what you mean about the ‘inspiration’ thing – and I’m never 100% sure how to reply to it. It’s said more and more often lately – but the ones that mean the most to me are where reading my posts has caused someone to take a different path than they otherwise might have done. Things like that also ‘inspire’ me (for want of another word!) and the cycle continues 🤗

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